See for yourself–a comment under moderation in an earlier post. As owner of the blog I have the liberty to accept it, spam it, or delete it. Am doing neither, but I am quoting it here:
Author : Decent Mother
You are a disgrace to the Filipino women. We have been trying to change the image of the Filipino women in the internet. Foreigners type “filipina” to search for women to have sex. The same kind of people (pedophiles and perverts) type “sexy mom” and it points to You . You are an embarassment to our country. Stop using SEXY MOM. Filipino mothers are loving caring mothers. Leave the SEX part in your bedroom . Mommy bloggers laugh behind your back because of your pseudonym. Filipino women are too polite to tell you to say that using sexy mom is killing the filipino women.
And to make matters worse, same comment was made in my sons’ blogs (J Angelo, BA and Vince), with an additional sentence, which says, “Let this serve as a warning to your family.” NOW NOW WHAT TO DO? MY FAMILY IS UNDER ATTACK!
Annamanila, I asked, what is your advice? “Ignoring it” or “forgetting it”, she said, “is supposed to be the cruelest way to deal with a slight…. What to do? Ignore. But if you feel uncomfortable not being able to respond … maybe BA can respond? Do you want me to?” Annamanila’s soothing words felt like a warm comforting embrace from a good good friend. I also consulted some blogfriends, felt comforted with their words, and made me take the matter either in humor or in another perspective–thanks to them.
This could be an attack to bloggers per se–don’t we have the freedom for flippant labels, for humor, for writing creatively? I am not writing any explanation–I don’t think I owe “decentmother” any. Son BA was ranting and raving and came up with a beautifully written post. You may see the comments he received here.
A disgrace? An embarrassment? Really now?
Lemme start this entry with a bit of history.
A few years back, my mother was so conscious of her figure, that every night she would ask us kids, “am I fat?”
Being the lovely kids we are, we always replied, “no mom! You’re sexy! The sexiest mommy of all!”
And thus, the pseudonym Sexy Mom was born.
Now, on with the rant.
Just this afternoon, I received a threat in the comments section of one of my entries. A certain “decent filipino woman” (email@example.com) was ranting against my mom’s use of her pseudonym. She said,
Your mom is a disgrace to the Filipino women. We have been trying to change the image of the Filipino women in the internet. Foreigners type “filipina” to search for women to have sex. The same kind of people (pedophiles and perverts) type “sexy mom” and it points to your mother . Your mom is an embarassment to our country. Tell her to stop using that name . I know of other mommy bloggers who laugh behind her back because of her pseudonym.
Let this serve as a warning to your family.
Of course, I did not approve the comment (but wtf, I’m posting it here!!! It’s also published here.).
The “decent” filipino woman said that my mom was a “disgrace to Filipino women” because her use of the pseudonym “Sexy Mom” leads to promotion of perversion in the Philippines.
According to her comment, when perverted foreigners type “sexy mom” in the internet, it points to my mom. And this, the filipino woman says, is a disgrace and an embarrassment
Let’s do a bit of roleplaying. I’ll be a dirty pervert, looking for some alternative mommy sex. And my mom, plays as herself, the Sexy Mom of the blogosphere.
I go to Google. I type “sexy mom in the philippines” on the box, and then click on “I’m feeling lucky today!”
What pops out?
The D Spot.
Ok then. Sounds naughty enough. Now I start looking for some sexy pictures…
Aaaand… I find none.
What do I get instead?
Tips on Filipino motherhood. On parenting. On learning. On travel. On patriotism.
Filipina sex? None. Malicious pictures? None. Sexy moms having sex? NONE.
So, tell me, “decent” filipino woman. How the heck does this lead to the embarrassment and disgrace of our country?
Don’t you think my mom’s blog is doing otherwise?
Yes, people continue to search for dirty, malicious content by using the keywords “sexy mom.” But instead, what do they get? A wholesome blog.
Rather than promoting how sexy and sex-able Filipinas are, my mom is promoting the Filipina mother in a very wholesome way.
And that, my friend, is nowhere near to saying that the Filipina woman as a foreigner sex object (as how your comment implies).
Does her blog disgrace the country? No. Does her blog embarrass the Filipina woman? No. Does her blog show how good Filipinas are in bed? No.
So here I go again, saying my favorite line…
Before saying anything and attacking the person personally, please, know the person first. And if it’s us bloggers you’re attacking, please, learn how to read before you attack.
What’s so wrong with using a pseudonym?
(Hmmmm. Makes me think… Should I change “Bababa ba?” to Sexy Man? BWAHAHAHAHA)
Now I have an idea, I am thinking of changing my name, from Sexy Mom to Sexy Lola. What do you think?
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