The D Spot

This article was an original contribution to Parenting: Pinoy Moms Network on 2 September 2007. You are all welcome to visit PMN as we share with you the many expriences of the Filipina moms, local and global.

It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.
- Erma Bombeck

True—when I was much younger, when I was only a daughter, I did not understand what my mother really meant of her decisions and actions. Often times I did not listen to her, even deliberately hurting her feelings. But still, she remained steadfast, she would not give up. She would still keep reminding me of what was proper and what was not. No matter how I misbehaved, she was still there—she never gave up on me. There was always a soothing word, a word of appreciation, a smile, a hug.

I would not understand how every achievement, no matter how small, would become a bragging piece, almost declaring it to the whole, which sometimes was painfully uncomfortable. Had there been the Internet at that time, had blogs been handy, I am sure, she would have journalled each achievement, each funny incident, each milestone in her blog. To her, I was perfect.

Later in my teens, there were times when I would sulk, asking myself why I was not permitted to go to this party, let alone sleep over in a friend’s house. I had lots of questions. Answers must have been dangling right under my nose, but I chose to be visually impaired, not seeing sense. It was a happy go lucky existence for me. I would even remain deaf to her blah blahs. In case something went amiss, it was ok. Mother would be there anyway to get me out of trouble.

Until I had a family of my own—I totally saw the world in a different perspective. I was what my mother was when I was only her daughter years back. Nothing is too late—finally, I understood my mother.

Such is a mother—compassionate, persevering, and understanding. Such is a Filipina Mom, going an extra mile to show her child that she cares, that she loves, blind of her child’s imperfections.

I know too well, that soon, my daughters would understand me–in time.

Soon, your daughters would understand you, Pinoy Moms, Filipina Moms–in time.

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