Dedma

Posted on July 15, 2008
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Hubby came early from work, and we had the chance to go to church together at the Pentecost Church in Loyola Heights. I always like going to church there, as the priests are very dynamic. This time, there was a priest who I did not know, who from the start of the Mass asked, “What kind of relationship are you in?” He promised to repeat the same question during the sermon.

“Who of you have experienced how it is to be in love?” He asked those who have a yes answer to raise his or her right hand. I raised mine, and looked if hubby raised his. He did.

“Who of you have not experienced how it is to be in love?” He asked those who have a yes answer to raise his or her right hand. I didn’t see anyone raise his or her hand.

“Do you know that the most painful thing for one to experience is for a loved one not to pay attention to you at all? Not to show you any feelings, not to say anything to you at all, as if you do not exist? To be DEDMA to you?” the priest said. “It must have been easier if the loved one just got mad at you , right?”

True, and I thought, “then be dedma in return.”

Hubby was giggling—he said the priest must have been referring to me particularly at that moment. “Pinapatamaan ka yata”, he said.

And I asked, “Why do you think so?” He just giggled again, and didn’t answer me. Was I being dedma, or was I the one being dedma to? I wondered. I didn’t probe and pursue my question anymore. I didn’t want to be makulit or argue, more so we were in church.

Now, now, the priest was saying something else. He was referring to one’s relationship with the Father. He said the Father is very hurt, because a lot of people do not talk to Him anymore. A lot of people seem to be too preoccupied to take notice of Him. A lot of people are too angry to want to talk to Him at all. A lot of people just seem not to care. A lot of people are DEDMA!

The priest said, “He wants you to talk to Him. If you have received blessings, thank Him. He wants you to spend some time with Him. If you are angry with Him, tell him that you are angry. Tell Him the reasons why. Just talk to Him. Just don’t be DEDMA.”

True, I do not want Him to tire of me, and reach a point that He will become DEDMA. But He will not—He is my Father. He is your Father, too. He eagerly waits for me. He eagerly waits for you, too. Talk to Him. Even if He knows what is in our hearts, even if He can read our minds, He still wants you and me to talk to Him. He will gladly listen.

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17 Responses to “Dedma”

vk on July 16th, 2008 3:02 am

hi dine,

kumusta,,,,,,

balik na lang ako to read your post,
there is something in my eyes, ang sakit.
balik ako dito bukas.

maraming salamat mahal mo rin ang Mama ko…..thank you.

thank you very much for your prayers,too.

regards
vk on July 16th, 2008 3:06 am

“He wants you to talk to Him. If you have received blessings, thank Him. He wants you to spend some time with Him. If you are angry with Him, tell him that you are angry. Tell Him the reasons why. Just talk to Him. Just don’t be DEDMA.”

AMEN…........

when we have problems, it doesn´t mean HE doesn´t love us, either he loves n cares us….just let us to remember that GOD LOVES US…..through this, kapit tayo sa kanya, lalong malapit tayo sa kanya, remember him and Talks to him.

Praise God
niceheart on July 16th, 2008 6:20 am

Natamaan din yata ako for being dedma. But that’s only because there are times when I’m also being the one being dedma to. I think that’s part of human nature, what you said, “then be dedma in return.”

I like how the priest put it that way, it’s very relatable.
lady cess on July 16th, 2008 6:32 am

i can imagine the scene between you and your hubby in church. cute and funny =D

the priest’s sermon is very nice. thanks for sharing it with us.
jun on July 16th, 2008 9:20 am

Nice one.

May I forward in my weekly emails /repost in mabutingbalita.net?

Sexy Mom: sure, Jun! you may email and repost it. thanks
Bea P. Gonzales on July 16th, 2008 11:30 am

Thanks for this very enlightening post.
Jayme on July 16th, 2008 1:25 pm

Thanks for this Sexy Mom. Hit me right through the heart.
noemi on July 16th, 2008 8:01 pm

maybe there is a time when we play “dedma” to God but we realize that won’t work after all. Been there, done that. God is the ultimate.
Rach (Heart of Rachel) on July 16th, 2008 8:46 pm

Sad to say there are times I take Him for granted. I’m just grateful that He is kind and very understanding. He never fails to give me another chance.
cielo on July 16th, 2008 10:19 pm

the sermon is really true in reality. sometimes we remember God in our lowest, but when we are at our highest we tend to forget..in mind that God is always forgiving ♥♥♥
Cookie on July 16th, 2008 11:35 pm

Painful but true. Many, including myself, often turn to the one up there only when we need him. I like this sermon…parang ako din ata ang pinatamaan
ba on July 16th, 2008 11:58 pm

Psalm 139.
Kyels on July 17th, 2008 2:08 am

Whether I am in trouble or not, I still talk to Him. I seek for His blessings most of the time. I do admit that on several occassions I was angry w/Him but after a while, I realise my mistake—- the beauty of faith, di ba?

[:
julie on July 17th, 2008 2:36 am

Aray! Dedma nga is one of the things that is not a good thing to be on the receiving end. That is what we sometimes discuss for those with special needs, NR, no reaction. Mahirap i-gauge what these people are feeling and thinking about.
annamanila on July 20th, 2008 3:18 am

Ang daming tinamaan. Ouch din, from this corner. Bullseye! I want to thaw. It’s only Him who has never dead-ma’d anyone of us can do that.
myepinoy on July 20th, 2008 7:19 pm

Have you seen one of George Carlin’s video? I guess he got some good explanation about this.

Happy weekend.
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