I have a dilemma—19 year old son BA is now sporting long hair, loooong curly hair.
It was just too late for me to realize that all of a sudden his hair is long—he sometimes even uses his sisters’ head bands or scrunchies.
About 3 semesters ago, when he started going to college, I thought that his not having a haircut was just because he did not have time to go to the barber.
As the months passed by, he would have different alibis for not going, ranging from not having time, or just being lazy to go to the barber or the salon, or finding David’s expensive, or even saying that he spent the haircut money to buy school supplies. At one time he said he run out of money.
Until for a time, I just took things for granted, I did not anymore ask questions.
Now, he confuses the two cutie babies, Pia 4 and Cate 2. Cate asked him one day, “BA are you a girl? and am I a boy?”. “Why?”, BA asked, and Cate answered “Because you have long hair!” BA told Cate that his dad had long hair once, and Cate would not believe him. When BA insisted, Cate cried. She said, her daddy is a boy and not a girl.
I thought he will soon get bored with his long hair or get fed up grooming it day in and day out. Maintaining his kind of hair is kinda difficult. He is lucky because his hair is soft. But now I do not see any indication that he is changing his mind.
Why can he not be like this—clean cut, fresh from his high school days at the Ateneo?
Or as neat as his sisters?
Or as boyish as my looks? I don’t know, does it have anything to do with where he is studying now? UP?
He does not seem to be bothered, though sometimes I am. Please tell me what to do.
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28 responses so far ↓
Arbet // Sep 21, 2007 at 11:08 am
Maybe you should consult my mom. You see, I just had a haircut last month, after more than a year.
I would suggest to just let him be. Time will come when he will realize that such a long hair is hard to manage in the long run. That’s why I had a haircut.
And oh, my mom’s constant “reminder” helped. A bit.
Kyels // Sep 21, 2007 at 11:24 am
I’ve no ideas of what you can do but to just leave him be for a while more. He might just get bored of grooming his long curly hair. I guess teenagers are up to experimentation. Just like my brother, he wants to turn his hair into an Afro-like style. Bet my father would kill him. Haha!
Dad (Alan Racoma) // Sep 21, 2007 at 12:18 pm
I hope I can find my picture with a shoulder length hair when I was his age. And then ROTC..ouch.
lady ces s // Sep 21, 2007 at 12:22 pm
heehee! reminds me of my mom getting stressed at my younger bro’s hair. and oh, my fil nagged my my hubby’s younger bro too for sporting long hair.
im not exactly sure what happened. one day, i just saw them with regular short hair. i guess they woke up and realized they had to let the hair go bec they had to look for a job.
Jeff // Sep 21, 2007 at 1:48 pm
on the other hand, I’ve always had my head shaved since high school – and I remember a college prof argue that “hair grooming” requires the presence of something to actually groom! I only started growing my hair months before I started doing job interviews after graduation, and kept the hair.. until now. I’m going for the shave again!
haze // Sep 21, 2007 at 6:55 pm
Naku Tita, I guess teenagers are curious and stylish ! Yung brother ko po when he was a fine arts student aba at parang Michael Jackson ang gupit, yung 80’s pa po ang style ! Parang bunot hehehe ! OK lang po yan Tita, if he feels good about himself, then let him be ! As long as he gives you good grades, he stays out of drugs and bad acquaintances ! Hehehe uso po ba sa atin ang long hair ngayon ?
auee // Sep 21, 2007 at 8:37 pm
hehe you’re not going to win this one… Accept it. Perhaps suggest he colours it red
I used to have a boyish cut like yours and my then bf had really long hair (past his shoulder). We looked weird accdg to my ate, and likely to confuse Cate, too!
pining // Sep 21, 2007 at 8:50 pm
I think teen-agers go through this phase; my brother used to sport the long hair too (but without the locks) when he was that age, much to my mother’s disappointment, then after a few months he came home a baldy, tsk, tsk…
have a good week end Dine
Frances // Sep 22, 2007 at 2:40 am
What’s with long hair and college? My brother grew his hair long when he was a freshman, too. He looks like some rock star now. Is it rebellion? A celebration of liberation?
But what can I do? It’s his choice, so I just let him be.
Gypsy // Sep 22, 2007 at 7:13 am
I think you will just have to “sit it out”—and wait for him to grow out of this phase..:)
jc // Sep 22, 2007 at 7:53 am
As a former clean cut Jesuit product, I also went through that phase in UP immediately after graduating from ROTC. Even my very strict dad sat back to enjoy the change. ‘twas fun with some downsides. Girls were all over me (my hair, actually) but I had to keep my hair smelling nice and in place all the time.. hehe! Got tired of it, eventually. Let’s hope that your son will go through the same trend.
jhay // Sep 22, 2007 at 11:23 am
When I was still in highschool, hair styles were the number one, if not the only cause of school brawls.
There was this one golden rule, “Mock me, tease me, but let my hair be. Lest you want hell to be raised by me.”
It’s more powerful in Filipino; “Asarin mo ako, lokohin mo ako, huwag na huwag mo lang gagalawin ang buhok ko. Kung hindi magkakagulo tayo.”
And seriously enough, all thanks to MTV, N’Sync and hair gel, if a student touches, or even misses by a few centimeters, someone else’s hair, all hell would break loose.
Even in DLSU-D and at the ADMU, hair styles were solely a student’s concern.
Maki // Sep 22, 2007 at 11:42 am
My blockmates in Ateneo during sophomore year also went through this phase. They were really growing their hair longer than us girls! Some wore hairbands, some used elastics. That was really some phase we are all laughing about now when we are reviewing our block pictures for our Senior’s pabaon! I guess it’s just a phase.
Tom // Sep 22, 2007 at 12:42 pm
I don’t like boys/men sporting long hair unless they are gay.
Sidney // Sep 22, 2007 at 1:17 pm
Well, in due tim he will be bald!
Sidney // Sep 22, 2007 at 1:18 pm
(sorry) time.
Ade // Sep 22, 2007 at 4:33 pm
Don’t worry about it too much. He’ll prolly growu out of it.
ba // Sep 22, 2007 at 8:11 pm
Ayoko ngang magpakalbo. Hahaha
Belle // Sep 23, 2007 at 9:25 am
eventually, when he gets tired of it, he will make a trip to the salon on his own. though, i must admit, he looks better in short hair.
carey // Sep 23, 2007 at 9:34 am
LOL, just like my nephew in college now, sporting a long hair. ganun daw kasi pag astig. i think sa barkada nila, long hair sila lahat. maybe it’s their way of being different from the rest, making a statement.
Rach // Sep 23, 2007 at 10:41 am
Hi Dine. This post reminded me of my younger brother. My mom had a hard time persuading him to cut his hair short. Until today, he still maintains long hair (considerably shorter than before but still long in my mom’s standards).
Tiffany // Sep 23, 2007 at 11:39 pm
Don’t worry Tita Dine. When I see him in school, magtatago ako ng gunting. When he’s not looking, I’ll cut his hair! Hahahaha
carlotta // Sep 24, 2007 at 12:23 pm
my mum had a fit just last saturday coz my bro had his hair shaved lolz
Rowena // Sep 26, 2007 at 7:08 am
Hi Dine, buy him some pangtali sa hair, yung iba iba colors, he he….
dhonjason // Sep 27, 2007 at 9:01 am
In my own observation, most guys (including me) passes this stage in life. A long hair is a sign (subconsciously or not) of freedom, independence and rebellion. All our life we’re restricted by parents and/or school policies, requiring you to sport a neat but unfashionable haircut. To let your hair grow as long (and shiny) is very liberating. time will come, things will be back to what is right, neat and clean. But, boys will be boys. =)
lisaflor // Sep 27, 2007 at 7:04 pm
Haha, my kuya’s hair was longer than my longest hair a few years back. All I thought was, thank God he wasn’t a girl, otherwise I would have looked like an ugly duckling. Mas maganda kasi sya. But after that, he shaved his head kasi…. kinuto! So that might give you a (hideous) idea.
wink wink
ba // Sep 27, 2007 at 8:11 pm
Tiff: Sino ka, si Delilah? Hehehe
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