Under attack again–branded as a “Disgrace to Filipina Mothers”
Posted on June 28, 2008
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15 July 2008
To you all, dear Readers, thank you for your moral support and friendship. Your kind gesture means a lot to me and my family.
And to you, Tessa, you are entitled to your own opinion, but no one in any way has the right to insult another. You know in the eyes of our Creator, no one is ever pangit, mataba, matanda and walang kwenta. He loves each and everyone of us—and yes, that includes you. WIth that, I rest my case.
Best,
Dine – - – - – -
Under attack again
Mea culpa! My own fault! I can’t believe it. Last year, on 26 June I was under attack by the Decent Mother. A year after, on 27 June, here I am again, now being the the subject of a certain “Tessa’s” ranting and raging.
Posting Parenting—The risks I took (and continue to take) has proven to be rather risky. For one, it has risked ruining the peaceful existence of some people, or at least one person, who calls himself/herself Tessa. He/she has sent a rant through my comment box, on the use of the words “sexy mom” which are not even written in that blog post.
I have kept that comment waiting for moderation, but son BA has seen it before I could either approve it, delete it or spam it. BA cleans my blog of spams and sometimes do some tweakings for me. Alan Jr also saw it while we were reading my emails. BA has seen red, his blood boiling, and is now wondering why he has taken the bait and allowed himself to be angry again. He has come to my rescue, as I am being again called “A disgrace to the Filipina Mothers.”
He asks, “How low can people go?”
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Stupid people can really get your blood boiling. I guess I may be somewhat wrong here, because I took the bait and allowed myself to be angry again. But what the heck, my mom’s being attacked once more! So here I come to the rescue.A certain Tessa (tessa@gmail.com), wrote on my Mom’s entry (she chose not to approve it yet).
pa-sexy sexy ka kasi, eh kita mo na. Kaya pinabyaan mo mga anak mo. Itigil mo nga yung sexy mom na yan. tanda tanda mo na, taba taba mo pa at pangit. At walang kwenta. Nag Filipina Images ka pa? eh wala namang ako nakitang sinusulat mo doon. Dekorasyon ka lang. pa-sexy sexy na walang contribution sa Filipina.
Nakakahiya ka pa rin. Nireklamo na kita doon sa mga ibang co-founders na paano ka naman naging kasama doon? Eh walang kwenta ka naman. Wala kang sinulat.
You are still a disgrace to the Filipina Mothers.
Continue reading, please: How low can people go
Matanda (old), mataba (fat), pangit (ugly) and walang kwenta (useless)
Me, I was more amused at first than hurt, but somewhat disturbed. I am only human, as Tessa has called me matanda (old), mataba (fat), pangit (ugly) and walang kwenta (useless). So what is in old, fat and ugly? Oh yes, if 50 is old, so be it—that’s half a century of productive life, and I have never been ashamed of it In fact, I even announced it to the world wide web, when I said, I’m 50, I’m 50, I’m 50 on my last birthday. If a few pounds heavier than normal is fat, so be it—a wake up call perhaps to start unshedding them. If what I look now is ugly, so be it—beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, anyway. And if whatever little I have contributed to society brands me as useless, again so be it—I cannot please all people, and who am I to do just that? Age—well, it is a given, but fat and ugly are both relative—they depend from person to person. As to being useless, omg! what an insult this can be.
And I thought I have no enemies (meaning people who would react violently on what I write), most of the time I am here at home quietly working away. Sometimes I go out with my friends, more times with the kids for small fun or meaningful activities. My blog, too, has never stepped on anyone’s toes, it’s all positivity, sharing, faith, fun, family, I think, with thousands and thousands of hits on wholesome activities as UAAP, ACET, UPCAT, etc.
Nothing to prove
I guess, my BA has saidit all. My blogs, The D Spot and Poems from the Heart, and my contributions to The Filipina Images, can speak for me. My family has been supportive of me, for them, I am the most beautiful mother in the whole world (inside and out). I know my true friends and those who are not. I do not have to prove myself to anyone, as I am accountable only to my God.
What would you have done if you were in my place?
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in situations like yours, having achieved some degree of success, status, and populiarty…you do get attacks like this one from “Tess” who, thanks to cybercommunications-can keep his/her identify secret…rather cowardly I might add. If she is truly serious she must sign her complete name and source…so you can reply if you want to.
But like most tabloid reports I have read, many who write are sick in some degree and suffer from envy, lack of attention, and habitually in search of someone to attack. I know. I was a victim once before.
Just remember you have more friends than this one misled and mis informed attacker. She uses argumentum ad hominem
argument which is invalid.
Love and prayers, Dine dear.
Dine, you know who you are. Don’t let people as low as Tessa get the better of you. In the first place, if she had an issue with you, putting up a personal-attack comment isn’t the way to go.. It’s hard to do, but just ignore her. Sher isn’t worth the attention and bandwidth.
Just continue with what you’re doing, Dine. Naiinggit lang yan. Sabi nga sa kasabihan: Binabato na pag hinog na ang bunga (or something like that). Maybe she needs some attention or can’t do anything better.
Ay, grabe! Of course, I didn’t read the comment when I wrote mine kasi I concentrated on the comments made by those I know.
As Chats said, you know yourself better than anyone else. It hurts, insulting even but then again, who are these people to “judge” you or the way you look. Nobody has the right to do that, especially if its in cowardly way.
I read your post about your parenting style, about bringing up your seven children. It’s so honest and I am pretty sure a lot of working mothers can relate. A few days ago I posted on keeping my relationship with my daughter as it is mentioning about being a cool mom. It’s working pretty well for me and my daughter. Parenting style is relative, what works for one may not work for others. I believe those who malign you do not really understand what you are saying, what you are sharing. Ugly remarks on one’s physical attributes can only come from the lowest kind. Better ignore.
Sikat ka na kasi tita dine kaya ganyan. Just keep on blogging.
hi..SEXY MOM…
raising and taking care of seven kids is …sexy.. to me..
godbless..
by the way .. tessa.. whooooooooo????
She’s probably someone you know who is jealous of you, tita. Insecure lang yan. Kasi you’re flaunting your age and your photos and you are comfortable with who and what you are. Yaan mo na lang siya. What goes around comes around
Happy weekend, tita!
Pansin lang yan Mommy Dine! Don’t mind her. You know who you are…
Keep on blogging…
ito ang isa sa malungkot na parte ng blogging at ng buhay. iba iba talaga ang mga tao.
sa tanong na how low can people go, well i guess out of the question na yon kasi realities ito ng buhay at expected na sa ibang mga tao yon at ito nga ang example. people can go even worst than this. you know what i mean.
with regards sa tanong na “What would you have done if you were in my place?”, well marami ka pwede gawin.
una, hayaan mong lumabas ang comment as is and let her/him be happy.
ikalawa, kung gusto mo malaman exactly kung sino sya marami syang iniwang mga clues at traces: IP address, na pede mo ma trace at ikalawa sabi nya inireklamo ka nya sa ibang co-founders doon sa Filipina.
ikatlo, i guess within the circle lang sya at pwede mo ipahuli kay bayani fernando… joke.
at ang pinaka, invite her/him for a dinner. lol
I guess the ten paradoxical commandments of leadership ay applicable dito:
10 Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership
by Kent Keith
1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love and trust them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest people with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest people with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs but follow top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help but may attack you if you help them. Help people anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have, and you may get kicked in the teeth. Give the world your best anyway.
siguro itong commandments na ito ang mas okay kesa sa mga sinabi ko….lol
sa ngayon, relax lang di ka naman nya kilala talaga, inside out di ba?
At isa pa, time is so short so bakit pa sasayangin sa taong tulad nya.
whoa….
i agree with the statements of my fellow blogger-friends.
at isang big hug from me =)
Either the person is someone who’s got some personal grudge…or he/she’s just the type who hates everyone who feels good about themselves and their life. Some people feel they don’t need a reason to feel hate for another person. And they’re the pitiful ones.
Just ignore her. She’s made a useless comment anyway.
I cannot believe it.
Did she come from the psych ward?
ofcourse you are not a disgrace, i have often told you this and i will always tell it to you over and over agin , that you are one of my inspirations in blogging. Dont mind them and continue to inspire others. We luv u Mom D.
Just delete the darn comment and ignore the darn person.
Really, what can she do to ruin your reputation and popularity? Just make useless comments here and there.
Tsk, tsk, tsk. Stuff people do to get attention. Best thing to do is ignore and laugh it off.
it was so nice to finally meet you in person. ignore her and laugh about it.. don’t let her ruin her day.
I get stupid and hateful comments now and then. I don’t even defend myself anymore because I know readers know me well.
If that happened to me, I believe it’s a waste of time giving the time and day to this comment. Remember that british guy associated with Mayen? he plasters my face all over the internet to this day. I don’t react to it. If people see my name associated with that scam, all they need to do is google and decide who I am.
I will just continue blogging.
where in the comment did that commenter say you are a disgrace?
mom nakikisali lang siya sa kasikatan mo po. Tingnan mo po nagcomment ako sayo para basahin blog ko
Gusto mo pang sumikat kasi eh sumikat ka lang dagil nag comment ako. Di dapat matuwa ka sa akin. Itigil mo na yung drama na yan. Tutoo naman ang comments ko, di vah?
Your comments are not true, Tessa. Despite your previous assertion, it’s not my mom who is the disgrace, it’s people like you.
I don’t know what you get or want to get by posting those nasty comments of yours. Some kind of gratification maybe? Ah basta. For me it’s just plain stupid. Go find another person to bash. And make sure that person is indeed bash-able.
I’ve finished my two entries and I stand firm with what I wrote. How about you? You can’t even tell us who you really are. So how are people supposed to believe you?
You’re just a waste of bandwidth, and I’m through with you. I can’t believe I took the bait and allowed myself to let loose thrice (first entry, second entry, and this commment). Anyway, I’ll just let people do the judging. Your comments and assertions, though nasty are just too weak, and would ultimately lead to your own demise.
wow, sometimes people can get so personal without any basis no? hehe..
well, if that happens to me, i’d be bothered at first. but then i know who i am and my loved ones know who i really am so life moves on.
God bless you, ma’am. It seems you have a lot of friends than she has
Haaay. Trolls will forever plague the blogosphere.
Still, any great material will get polarized reactions. And yes, just focus on those people who truly love your blog. (Like us! :D) You’d know the quality of people who support you and I guess that should be enough to offset troll remarks.
Hi, Dine.
Just ignore her and continue with what you are doing. Hindi naman tutoo kaya pabayaan mo na lang siya mag-comment ng mag-comment. Magsasawa din yan pag wala ng pumansin sa kanya.
Hope you can join us for lunch one of these days.
Take care.
Every day is your opportunity to raise your life to a higher level by giving the best that you have. Whatever it is you desire, give it, be it, support it, and you will enjoy it in great abundance.
If you desire to be understood, take the time to understand. If you want to have many friends, be friendly.
If you want the world to change for the better, make a positive change in yourself. If you long for peace, be peaceful
I have long realized that when people are being mean, it’s usually because they are miserable with their own lives. Big time. When they see others growing happy and becoming successful in their own lives, insecurity starts planting its evil seed. Jealousy drives people to say really bad things about other people (because that’s the only way they can get the successful people’s goat and be miserable like them). So when people diss you, bask in the glory of it. It just means they are unhappy and unsuccessful in their lives and you, being the happy, wise and actualized woman that you are, have the greater ability to understand and be more compassionate.
Just smile and throw it all to the wind. People like “Tessa” do not deserve attention and should be disregarded. Besides, who ever believed that trash talkers deserve the time of day. Wala yan. Hindi lang yan low-life..no-life pa. It only goes to show that there are many people (anonymous and otherwise) who are “inggit” of the stature that you have attained. Keep it up and keep you head high..don’t let this get you down
Im for you. We experienced the same,i understand how you feel.
Be strong.
Nyak! I’d rather get no comments in my blog than get a comment from a person like that. Di bale nang 5 lang readers ko basta quality people naman. Tita Dine, if you’re useless, pano pa ako? Nyay!
Girl, try raising seven kids. (may comment pa ko pero wag na nga lang hehe)
wag mong intindihin yan, ma’am dines. selos yan kasi wala silang magawa na matino.
oh dine, that bashing is one way to ride in your popularity
o baka naman hindi nya alam kung anong ibig sabihin nung mga ginamit nyang mga pananalita about you? baka hindi nya naintindihan kung anong tunay na laman ng blog mo? baka sa ibang mundo sya nabubuhay? kung ganyan e kawawa naman sya. sana may kaibigan syang magturo sa kanya ng tamang landas.
wag niyo na lang po sila pansinin
mom na din po ba siya? kasi kung oo, grabe naman po ang thinking niya.. she should be old enough to know what’s right from wrong.. di ba, di ba? hehe
ang cute niyo nga pala sa picture niyo sa sidebar
haha ♥
ang ganda pa ng view niyo
para sa akin… ikaw pa rin ang nag-iisang sexy mom sa blogworld!! keep on blogging ate..
na-miz ko dito! di na ako makapasyal-pasyal sa ibang bahay e. ingat lagi tita en God bless po!
isang bagay lang yan: INGGIT.
Dine, trying to catch up with what i’ve missed. next time you see Tessa’s comments, click delete right away. don’t even bother reading her messages, don’t give her a second of your precious time. sikat ka kasi, siya hindi…hehe…take care!