To My Inda–Happy Mother’s Day! and to all you mothers out there

May 10th, 2009 by Sexy Mom · Viewed 561 times · 2 Comments

To my mother, whom I fondly call “Inda” (I used to call her Mommy) and whom my kids call “Ma”, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

No words can be enough to thank her for all the love and care she has given my family for the past 25 years that she has been with us (from the birth of Monica, she has stayed with me through thick and thin). She was my children’s second mother, attending to their needs during the times that I was traveling around for 15 years before I took early retirement 2-1/2 years ago. No one can take the place of a mother in taking care of the kids than another mother. She must be one of the best grandmothers around, and the jolliest, too.

The good thing is that my mom and I are in tandem when it comes to dealing with the kids. There have been times that she had not agreed in the past with my decisions—but she did not interfere. She would say her piece, but not in front of the children. This is the secret for homes where parent/s and grandparent/s co-exist. She may have doted on her grandchildren as any grandmother would, but she did not spoil them. The most that she did in spoiling them was to see to it (and it still continues to this day) that each of her grandchildren are served the food they like on the breakfast/lunch/snacks/dinner table, seeing to it that their school clothes are ready in the morning, and most of the other things that a mother would do in making her children happy and comfortable.

As for me, she sees to it that I am comfortable while working at home. It’s bragging time for me, please allow me—Inda sees to it that I am comfortable and anticipates what I might need and want. She still dotes on me, seeing to it that there’s my favorite buco juice every morning, snacks in between, meals, and updates me on the news and anything that has caught her fancy, even if sometimes I do not seem to mind her when I am really very busy. And she knows when to serve Coke—she knows that Coke for me is a comfort drink.

She will be 71 years old next week, but she does not look a bit her age.

Another secret? She is happy, has a cheerful disposition, and like the things that her young “apos” like. She is lola to the kids’ friends who come to the house every now and then.

To all my aunts in the above picture (Inda will love this), Happy Mother’s Day!

To my daughter-in-law, Caren, too.

To my blog, plurk, facebook and twitter friends, too. Same goes to my sisters-in-law, cousins, friends, and you mothers out there. And to those who are not mothers, Happy Mother’s Day to your loved and dear ones who are mothers.

And finally, to the best Mother, who is an inspiration to many, Happy Mother’s Day, Mama Mary.

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Cindy Ramirez // Jun 2, 2009 at 9:48 am

Just to let you guys know that losing your mom on Mother’s Day is the greatest of ironies – and the greatest of tributes. This isn’t connected in any way with the article but I hope you let me say my piece.

My mom, Alicia Rosales Lacap, died last Mother’s Day, after suffering a massive stroke the week before. I’m already in my 40’s, ecstatically married, with three wonderful boys. One would think that someone in that state won’t be a cry baby when Mom leaves this world.

It’s not yet 30 days since and I still feel that I could still bring her back—that if I only massage away the pain, she’ll smile again and go back home like nothing happened; that if we were with her that day, she won’t be so alone when that illness visits; that if… that if… that if…

I now realize that I aged a lifetime when I saw her that Sunday: barely breathing, unseeing, too wet with her own bodily fluids, waiting for the inevitable. I can’t get her face out of my head and I cry inside each time I remember.

I feel that I haven’t really mourned her properly. That even with three heart-wrenching crying episodes, I still haven’t really healed.

So to everyone who still has the time, TAKE THE TIME! Cook her that favorite meal of yours! She’ll love that you took her cooking tips to greater heights. Let her babble at your ear over the phone for hours on end even when you multi-task. She’ll remember all those times when you demanded her time for you as well and thank you for giving her the same attention. And I’m not saying that you have favoritism and forget your father as well. They both deserve all the love since they created you out of love, regardless of the circumstances that they were in then.

Tell them you love them everyday. Cliche’ yes but it still works every time.

‘coz when they’re gone you’ll find that you can’t cry hard enough for them to hear you.

Thank you for doing a great job with us. Thank you for being vulnerable and letting us love you, in our small little ways. Thank you for letting us say No even when you scream inside for us to say Yes.

I love you, Mama. Happy Mother’s Day…

Thank you for letting me say my piece, Ms. D.

– Cindy Ramirez
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