The Joy of Being a Mother (TLC–Tender Loving Care)
Posted on March 23, 2007
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from my treasure chest of mommy moments memories…
TLC – tender loving care – a most basic need.
TLC is understanding, being patient, being thoughtful, giving oneself, going beyond, making one feel secure, caressing, touching, getting a message across, sharing, anticipating one’s needs, giving surprises, forgiving, and all other means, great or small, of loving which make one feel good.
TLC is not only action—making one feel loved. It is also saying (and writing) “I love you”. One can never tire hearing or reading “I love you” over and over again. It is also a good idea to give cards, even on no occasions, just to express one’s feelings. It teaches children to express their feelings, too. It gives me a warm feeling to watch them take pains scribble, draw or write for me. Sometimes, I would find cards or drawings, at times notes or messages, in my cabinet, under my clothes or wherever.
TLC is touch therapy—a kiss, a hug, an embrace, a gentle touch, a pat on the back. Some of my children would savor in a massage, especially the older ones who have become addicted to it. A good deal I get is occasionally getting back a massage!
TLC is correcting a mistake, not letting it go by unapprehended. Even at an early age, we should already teach our children correct values. Sometimes, parents would find a child’s mischief cute and laugh it off, like, scattering a sibling’s set of toys, booing a househelper, and all other seemingly cute actions. After the first, second or third time it was done unapprehended or laughed at, the child would feel it’s all right. He will keep doing this and other mischief the next time. A child’s mischief can never be called “cute” or “fun”, so at the start of the misbehavior, he has to be told that what he did was not good. It is also good to explain why.
TLC is making one’s presence felt even when one is away. When I go away for days or weeks, I see to it that I regularly communicate with my children by phone and leave something of myself. What I did in the early years when e-mail was not yet known (which I still do until now) was wrote letters, prepared cards in advance, and bought candies, books and other small presents, which I ask a friend to send home to my children on a daily basis. They still do not like the idea of me going away for days, but this surely reassures them and eases their discomfort.
TLC is forgiving, no matter what, and forgetting the wrongdoing. One can never be perfect, and one commits mistakes along the way. Life is a continuing learning process, and it is our role as parents to guide our children to the right path. We can do this by keeping communications open and discerning the degree of leniency we can allow them.
TLC is admitting one’s faults (parents are not perfect!) and saying “I’m sorry”, if we need to. Yes, it’s difficult to say “I am sorry” to our children, but by doing so, we still get the same respect, the same love from them, or even more.
TLC is McDonald’s, Jollibee, Pizza Hut, Toy Kingdom, Enchanted Kingdom, Dreamscape (for the smaller ones), concerts, parties, soirees (for the bigger ones, but with mutual understanding of limitations) and music, movies, malls, out of town trips and the comforts of home (for everyone).
TLC is being cuddled in a warm bed with a bunch of toddlers, adolescents and teens in a cold rainy night.
Finally, TLC is when at the end of the day, the family kneels down and prays together as one, to thank and praise the Father for all the graces He has bestowed upon us all and ask for His protection.
What can a child, given doses of all these give in return, but TLC!
treasure chest from: www.biblepicturegallery.com
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Dine Racoma is Sexy Mom, a Filipina doing what she likes best—writing, her passion. She writes freelance, does research, advises on new media, and manages a virtual assistance office for home-based jobs. A mother of 7 (what joy!) foremost, a wife, MIL, grandma to 2 pretty girls and an angel in heaven, sister, daughter, friend. Was in the corporate world for 27 years, the first 5 as Executive Secretary to an affiliate of the country’s biggest drug chain, and the last 22 as an international civil servant in an international development bank with HQ in Manila. Traveled extensively to many countries bringing about rich experiences and lessons learned to share with dear Readers. All these—in The D Spot
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Hi Dine. This is very well written and I can relate to each one. TLC is really very important in life. Without it, life would be dull, devoid of emotion and lonely.
I get my own share of TLC from family and friends and also make it a point to return TLC to the people around me.
Thank you for sharing and have a blessed weekend.
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Indeed, it’s true, Tita Dine.
I can really relate to all those points … Because I get TLC and I return TLC to them too.
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Good Morning Sexy Mom,
Do i am a TLC?........
when i read your Post today….i think of myself and ask….....do i am a TLC?....to my family, friends and to myself??????
thanks for your sharing this Post…....
have a nice Weekend to you n your family…...
Hallo Sexy mom! What a nice post about TLC! Well I do share some TLC to my friends and love ones here. I cant wait to share my TLC to my future children as well
I only heard TLC from nurses. I am not sure also if I had done a full TLC to my children because I am away almost all the time.
But judging from what my children are turning out to be, I am sure my wife knows TLC very well.
Thank you very much for the TLC and for bringing out more God-fearing and responsible citizens to our society.
“Sometimes, parents would find a child’s mischief cute and laugh it off…”
yikes what happened to my comment…
anyway… your children are so blessed to have you as their mom – not only a loving and kind one but wise and responsible too.
Wonderful! You are a great mother! Very inspiring!
“bye ma. I love you! goodnight , I love you!” I always hear those words to my kids. Just imagine replying to them so many times at night before they go to sleep.
and i’m proud to say that TLC is within our family.
nice post tita dine.
TLC is writing about this piece in full spirit of wisdom, friendship and concern
I love it.
In our days, we don’t have the luxury of cards, even email and text to say or express love and cares to each other, but by together at night after a very busy day at school, mom and dad making a living, listening to some “drama in a Radio and discuss the plot after” or just being together before we hit the bed. But verbalized or just express in silence togetherness, tlc can be felt from a mother who raised us eight children along the right path all her life..
TLC for me is feeling my baby moving inside me when I sing to her. I can’t wait to shower her with more TLC when she is born.
Thanks for posting this Sexy Mom! I always learn so much from your writings.
Have a happy weekend!
@Rach & Kyels- happy weekend. with TLC shared and exchanged, isn’t life wonderful?
@VK Do I am a TLC….? yes, you sure are, to your family, friends and self!
@chase – am sure you do share TLC over there with your friends and loved ones. how about your models?
@myepinoy – of course you give TLC even if you are away most of the time, you are not only aware of it. now that you are away, let TLC not only be your wife’s alone, but yours, too.
@Carey – every now and then, perhaps. there are many types of mischiefs, though, we moms have the instinct, which mischief is cute and which is not.
@dimaks – TLC to you for loving this post!
@Sidney – your pictures inspire me, too. am sure you place a lot of TLC on that camera when you shoot.
@ann – thanks! and yes, it’s really such a wonderful feeling.
@vic – same experience here, how nice it was to be cuddled with mom and dad. btw,TLC goes well with ballroom dancing where you are so good at!
@Jayme, just a few more days, just a few more days, then you meet Jamaine, who will just be so glad now she will feel you TLCs in the flesh! will pray for safe delivery!
What a nice post about TLC in its many different forms!
I wish you TLC forever Dine!
a very wonderful and educative post,sexy mom!
yep!TLC is what we need and so significant to practice.
you`re a good mom,i can sense
Touching post, since a lot of families nowadays don’t do TLC anymore due to different reasons. You sure get a lot of TLC from your famil, don’t you? My hubby comes from a brood of 7, just like the number of children you’ve got but they are not really big in expressing their TLC. My parents and only bro live in the province and we always manage to send sms to each other daily. Hubby and I spend as much time as we can with the kids and give them TLC. As parents, we don’t hesitate to hug and kiss in front of them. There are a lot of ways to express TLC, some of them might not be obvious. Whatever way it is done, it sure feels good to do it to someone or be at the receiving end.
TLC. I just can’t get enough of it. I’m glad my husband practices it very well.
i’m loving every tlc moment we have at home, gives me a certain kind of high
Love your TLC post Sexymom, it’s everything about letting our family members know how we feel about them. It’s really important to show how we feel because we really never know if there is another tomorrow….
TLC, i feel like I have it. Or just pretending I have it?
@mr nice ash – sure, you give lots of TLCs. so few husbands do what you do, like helping out with all those household chores despite working night shifts, taking care of sexy working mom, of your little kids, and much much more!
@KK – yes, we really never know if there is yet another tomorrow.
@Girlie – nice one you said “TLCs give a certain kind of high”
@tofubaby – lucky you!
@teacherjulie – sure the SMSs are TLCs, even if parents and brother are far away. and yes, TLCs come in different ways, sometimes, taken for granted. and whatever form of TLCs kids see in parents, they replicate.
@Ghee and Gina – thanks! am sure, you, too are TLC moms!
Those are TRUE ! Without that I guess family doesn’t exist and people are self centered !