Pauline, Jester in My Heart
Posted on March 11, 2007
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Pauline, my 13 year old daughter (daughter #3, child #6 of 7) is the jester in my heart.
Surprisingly, she is the least I have written about. It’s obvious, one of her siblings observed—
The reason why is obvious—I have never brought her to hospital, because she has never gotten sick at all; nor have I sat down with her for school work (sometimes the kids would ask me questions on their assignments), because she doesn’t do homework at all (oh, joke—she does great in math, and it seems that her subject in school is only math); she doesn’t make “kulit” because she simply is too occupied with her textmates, friendster friends, multiply friends, and math homework; nor does she get bored, such that she would like to be out of the house most of the time—she spends her time tinkering with her classical and electric guitars and the piano. Her siblings were wondering why I bought her an electric guitar, when she didn’t even ask for it. No formal lessons for her, though, but she plays well. Credit it to her being independent, she has learnt playing the guitar online, from her brothers and friends, and piano—that must be in her genes.
She is into pep, dance, and gymnastics, following the footsteps of her sister, Monica. I am amazed at how she can bend and twist, and do back walks, front walks, carwheels, and head stands. Her stamina is so amazing! And it’s impressive—how fast she types text messages.
A few years ago, I had to write an appeal letter to her assistant school principal, to allow her to join theater, despite her low grades. She really wanted to join, and I felt I had to support her. We both had to sign a promise that if her grades did not improve the next grading period, she would be pulled out from theater. What a surprise—when her grades came out, they would qualify her for honors. The assistant principal could not believe what she saw.
When she cannot be fetched from school, she has friends who bring her home. She’s very independent—this must be her defense mechanism for middle child syndrome (like her other brother, Vince, whom I also haven’t written about). They say that less attention is given to middle children, as focus is with the eldest and youngest. With the first child, parents tend to be in the initial learning stage, and experimental stage. But the positive side is, there are less restrictions with middle children.
I am not sure if it was the same with me. I know I have treated them all with the same love and attention. And the last time I had a heart to heart talk with them, they said they never faulted me for working full time for the past 27 years, and travelling every now and then. What is important for us all is NOW. NOW is a bonus for all of us, because aside from the pervading love inthe family, I am now present physically.
Let’s go back to Pau. Pau is funny, she has a good disposition, she can laugh incessantly, her laughter contagious. But she can be quiet and still at times (for a few seconds, or a few minutes maximum), when stares in blank space.
And contrary to what the others say, we do bond! Almost every morning, at
Just the thought of Pauline, wherever I am, makes me smile. How I love Pauline, she’s the jester in my heart.
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she is very pretty!
She’s a beauty Sexy Mom!
well, i wish i had a sister
Para siyang baliw kanina sa kotse
hi, sexy mom!
I can relate so much to the middle child symdrome because I am a middle child myself.
It’s true, they learn to be independent at an early age. As a matter of fact, I’m the only married among my siblings….
I think I have overcome that and has made a better person.
Maganda, talaga!
(:
All mothers say they love their kids equally..hhmm I doubt it…hahaha!(just kidding).
Pauline doesn’t look like 13 yrs old, parang dalaga na sya. And she’s really pretty and talented pa. Kahit sinong mommy talagang magiging proud.
Wow she can really do those high kicks or something.
By the way, the story in my blog is serious. She is from Cebu, Philippines btw.
I must say, she is a beauty. Guess from whom she got it from?
She’s adorable the way you describe her.
Good Sunday morning, Sxey Mom ! Thank you for your nice comments to me this morning on my blog ! I am glad you like coming to visit !
Your daughter sounds like a lovable, interesting, active person ! May she be blessed…
aaack – typo ! Sexy !
I enjoyed reading about Pau. It’s really evident how much you love her.
She’s very pretty and talented too. I’ve always been fascinated with my classmates who were involved in pep because of their flexibility and stamina.
It’s nice that she is musically inclined too.
You’re blessed with wonderful children.
Oh, you’re so lucky to have such wonderful kids! Especially you’re daughter.. from what I’ve gathered, she’s one in a million
Halatang special si Pauline noh? Special child. XD
sexy mom, you’re indeed very blessed to have one another. your kids got the greatest Mom (imagine raising 7 and all) and you’ve got adorable, smart, and good looking kids.
i bet they’re your priceless possessions, right?
Go go go Sexy mom, She is pretty
oh how loving naman Sexy Mom
she’s really pretty and the way you described her, very talented also.
You’re one lucky Mom
Pau is pretty and very talented
wow! what a small world! my cousin Camille is her friend!
(pic#3)
She seems like an amazing girl! Pretty, independent, talented and focused when she wants to be. I am not surprised she makes your heart smile and laugh.
haha.. i just have to say what the others are syaing…
go sexy mom
i have to agree…
pau is very pretty.. i think ilike her.. haha xD but she really is pretty.. and talented too ♥
well, go sexy mom!
good luck with life
teecee..
she looks lovely
and shes almost the same as my eldest…konti lang pala ang kids mo? 
well,garb all the chances that you could get along with her for some bondings
Like mother, like daughter..
“She loves her brothers dearly, she would even treat them with her trademark massage.”
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you and your husband raised her well
BA and Jangelo don’t agree?
You have to write about them as well.
pretty and talented pauline. parang pwede yan mag artista sexy mom! I’m sure you’ll support her.
You have very pretty daughters Sexymom!
The Jester in your heart is very talented.
She’s very pretty
And again, KSP si BA
And again, masama si Tiff sa akin. Wahahaha
She is just soooo beautiful ! Continue doing sports, it is good for the heart
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[...] Pauline, on the other hand, is with her high school’s PEP squad competing team. Same as Vince, she does difficult stunts—more difficult ones, she is training very hard. Lately, I have observed her working through the night with her projects and homework, in between playing the piano and strumming her guitars. [...]
[...] girl, Pauline has grown so fast. She is so full of talent and energy. She plays the piano so well—she reads notes and even [...]