Losing a child and learning to live with it

October 6th, 2008 by Sexy Mom · Viewed 953 times · 7 Comments

It has been one year since Joseph Michael has passed away. Through the 365 days that he has gone ahead of us, I have been seen how my son Joseph Angelo and his wife Caren has gone through the ordeal—the lowest point in their married lives, not understanding why this had happened, nor finding out the reasons—the whys and hows—why their son had to leave early in his life.

Angelo is right—No father should ever have to bury his son. But it happened, it was the will of God.

Angelo and Caren lost a child, and their small daughters lost a brother—early in life they have known the concept of death and dying. But you know what? In the process, THEY FOUND GOD!

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“We no longer mourn. In losing someone the pain never goes away. You only learn to live with it. In our living with this loss we now try to see things in a more positive light. We have grown more mature, more discerning. We have grown more faithful, and more active in our faith. For this is the only way we know through which we can be reunited with our son Joseph Michael once again. And of course, it is how it should be, for we believe our son was a gift to us by God in the first place.

This experience has humbled us greatly. But it has taught us to value life more. It has taught us to value our family more. And it has taught us to value our time more. We are born to this world naked and with empty hands. But God gives us gifts so that we may create and do good things. We have but limited time to accomplish this—some of us have more, while some less. Therefore the time to act is now because you never know when your time is up.”

Angelo has written his piece, “Remembering Joseph Michael G. Racoma” beautifully. It rends the heart, yes, it still made me cry, but it is filled with hope and the love of God, the Almighty. It gives true lessons in life, which we are sharing with you, with the desire that it too, will give hope to those who are struggling, to those in pain or in near death, to those who are lost, to those who also lost their love ones, to those who feel unloved, to those who have lost hope, and to those who just want to find light.

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Tags: Faith and Spirituality · LIFE · Parenting and Family

7 responses so far ↓

Tony Joaquin // Oct 6, 2008 at 10:17 am

Your son Angelo and his tribute to his son Joseph Michael has also touched my heart and more.

My wife and I too had had to deal with five children who came one by one and who enriched our lives, for they were indeed blessings.

I pray that Angelo and wife strengthen themselves in this kind of sad event that comes to us and be moved to resign themselves to God the Almighty who has His own plan for our lives.

Much love to you Dine, Angelo, and the rest of the family
Kyels // Oct 7, 2008 at 3:47 pm

This post touched my heart and through trials and tribulations we can definitely learn a lot, di ba?

God bless to you Tita Dine and the rest of the family.

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carey @ new horizons // Oct 7, 2008 at 7:49 pm

Such a meaningful and inspiring piece from Angelo indeed. We have our own sufferings in life, and God is always there to comfort us.

Angelo’s words represent courage and inspire us with the urgency to become better persons, to be more faithful and mature, not later but NOW.

By the way Tita, the url I’m using here is for my new blog ‘New Horizons’...hope you could visit it too. Have a great week ahead and God bless you!
annamanila // Oct 11, 2008 at 4:58 pm

Beautiful tribute by a bereaved dad. It’s good Angelo can no ventilate and share his feeliings. God bless you all.
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